The Relationship-Building Program with Your Children: ??
A Summary from the Book "Secrets of Raising Children and Building Confidence"
To protect your children from psychological issues, follow these summarized steps, and you will see the results:
1. Twenty minutes daily conversation with your children as if they are friends (no advice, no talk about school, no instructions).
2. Express feelings of affection and love to your children 5-10 times a day.
3. Praise your children daily five times for positive behavior they have done.
4. Compliment your children's appearance daily five times (their smile, hair, eyes, or anything about their appearance).
5. Participate in an outdoor activity with your child twice a week, even if it lasts only five minutes (walking, sports, a short drive, etc.).
6. Three minutes daily to reinforce values before bedtime:
“I was happy to see you doing [specific action] today.”
“Helping your little sister was kind of you.”
“Keeping your promise was admirable.”
7. Family dinner twice a week, at home or outside, with extended time to allow more conversation and bonding.
8. 1-3 minutes daily of active listening:
Sit with your child in a quiet place and ask them to share whatever they want without restrictions, interruptions, or discussions. When the three minutes end, the session is over.
9. Express your love through daily gestures:
Five touches daily:
Touching the top of the child’s head: "Compassion and mercy."
Placing your hand on their head: "Pride and admiration."
Placing your hand on their forehead: "Reassurance."
Placing your hands on their cheeks: "Longing."
Holding their hand: "Strengthening the bond of love."
If they are upset or feeling negative emotions, gently rub your hand on their chest.
Four kisses daily:
On the forehead: "Welcoming."
On the head: "Pride and honor."
On the cheek: "Longing."
On the hand: "Welcoming and affection."
Four hugs scattered throughout the day.
Finally: Build a strong relationship with your child so they become loving, obedient, polite, and respectful. Through this program, you will shape their personality, understand their character, strengthen their affection, and become the ideal role model in their eyes.
This will eliminate destructive behaviors that may have harmed your relationship or caused personality disorders, rebellion, violence, troublesome teenage behavior, or even deviation. It will also protect them from behavior-induced psychological issues previously discussed.
Say to your child:
"Thank you for being in my life." ???
